(...) getting people right is not that living is all about anyway. It is getting them wrong that is living, getting them wrong and wrong and wrong and then, on careful reconsideration, getting them wrong again. Tat is how we know we are alive: we are wrong. Maybe the best thing would be to forget being right or wrong about people and just go along for the ride. But if you can do that-well, lucky you.

Philip Roth, American Pastoral